On My Wish List

I am not really interested in all the new gadgets that are available. Dave likes his MP3 and his Garmin GPS map thingy. His watch can do everything but beam him up to the mothership. But I did see the Amazon Kindle the other day at my friend's house and I am trying not to covet it. You can download a book for about $2.00 (not a brand new one) in under 50 seconds. It is small and has a long lasting battery for traveling. It is easy to mark your page, make notes and look up new words. It is pretty spendy ($350+), but think how much money you could save on books. It would only take about 5 years to pay for itself (maybe by then the price will have come down). It is definitely not a NEED, just a WANT. Check it out at

http://www.pg-news.org/20071223/amazon-kindle/

Intelligent Optimism

I came across a new phrase yesterday: Intelligent Optimism. It resonates hope and power as opposed to fear and discouragement. Here are a few words that best describe it:

Look At The Bright Side
Why optimism is your best strategyJurriaan Kamp
July/August 2005 issue

Everyday reality seems to leave little room for optimism. Television and front page news report mainly on failure and misery: Terrorism, violence, intolerance and climate change. People everywhere are under a continual onslaught of negativity. No wonder more and more people are depressed. Under these circumstances, how can you stay positive and optimistic? In an exhaustive cover story, the French magazine Psychologies(January 2005) explains that optimism is a quality that anyone can learn. True optimism isn’t about denying reality against our better judgement. And optimism is not the same thing as idealism, which also reflects a tendency to push up against harsh realities. The idealist is chasing after a big ideal and runs the risk of big disappointment.
Psychologies calls for 'intelligent optimism.' Intelligent optimists don’t deny problems, but adjust to them, while still seeking an opportunity for progress. Intelligent optimists don’t allow themselves to get carried away by circumstances they can’t change, but focus on things that are within their grasp and that they can enjoy. The magazine quotes the diary of Etty Hillesum, a Dutch Jew who wrote a journal describing her life in a Nazi death camp: 'Today we walked along little German roads past lilacs and roses.'
You learn to become optimistic by concentrating on things that give you a sense of satisfaction, and you remain an optimist by feeding those things to make them grow. Intelligent optimists also know that for every problem there is (at least the beginning of) a solution and that the search for that solution can be inspirational in itself. They are also not afraid of negative thoughts, which they realize offer some protection and help them stay realistic.

Psychologies confirms that very little research has been done into factors that influence optimism because 'science is not interested in happy people.' Nonetheless, the psychologists and psychotherapists quoted in the magazine believe that the aptitude for optimism is not genetically determined. In other words: anyone can learn to be optimistic. All it requires is courage and practice, along with a good grasp of reality. Positive examples around can also help: people associating with others who are optimistic become optimistic themselves. And just as children of depressed parents are more prone to depression, psychologists believe the reverse is also true. Optimism breeds optimism.

Favorite Fall Fruit

I have been introduced to Honeycrisp apples and have found a new favorite. I am partial to Braeburns or Gala's, but the Honeycrisps have an extra zing. They are too expensive for daily lunches but great for a healthy treat.

What a Mess

In honor of the Winter Project project Dave and I are spending our time in a very messy family room. Dave has brought in his box of nuts, bolts an washers from the garage and has big plans to sort and organize them. He says the tarp stays til spring. I say out by Saturday. Once you let them bring a tarp in, the next thing you know there is a motorcycle engine in pieces as part of the decor. "It's cold in the garage!"

I am currently obsessed with family history and love some of the stories I am finding. On my mom's side we have a Mordecai that came over from Germany and signed the Non-Importation Agreement in 1765 and refused to import goods from Great Britain until the repeal of the Stamp act. Interesting! On my Dad's side, one of his father's ancestors was in the rescue company that helped save the pioneers in the Martin Company (where one of Dad's mother's ancestors was in bad shape). On the other hand there was also slave-trading, "general disregard of women" and other unsavory practices. Here are some of the names I looking for: Clemence, Ayers, Kimbrell, Wickham, Luna, Kemp, Lawrence, Collette, York and of course Smith and Jones.

Maverick Football

We have enjoyed watching Bryson play football this fall. He plays defensive tackle, middle linebacker and fullback. He is on the JV team and has to dress down for the Varsity games also. We drove to Caldwell for the last game today. It started at 4:00 pm and was about 70 degrees - warm and clear. They started off strong and it turned into a defensive game. The defense scored 18 points! Two interceptions for touchdowns and Bryson scored a touchback (a recovered fumble in our end zone for the football novice). He gets a steak dinner from Coach Bravo for that one.

The final score was 27 to 12. Good way to end the season.

Best Marriage Advice I've Received

A couple of years ago Lucille Johnson gave a talk on marriage relationships and I wrote down what she said about the five things men need and the five things women need most from each other. There can be so many challenges in having a happy marriage that I have loved this advice and try to keep it in mind. It's not one size fits all but is pretty basic and you can tailor it to your specific situation. For instance, if both have careers, then both should share the domestic chores. There was a time after Dave graduated before he got a job that I worked full time and he was home with Ben and Kristen (4 and 2). It was a good experience for both of us.

Although we can drive each other crazy once in a while, we both know that we are each other's top priority.

Here's to love and happy marriages!

WHAT MEN NEED/WHAT WOMEN NEED

MEN
Physical Intimacy (see http://strengtheningmarriage.com/ )
Have fun together/do recreational things with him
Praise and Admiration
Attractive Wife (smile, sense of humor)
Domestic Support (clean house)



WOMEN
Affection without other motives. “You are
important. I will protect you.”
Talking—Thoughts, fears, feelings
Fidelity and Trust
Financial Support
Spiritual Leadership in the Home

Fall Day Hike

Dave took the day off and we went for a hike in the Boise foothills. It was a fun date and we walked and talked and enjoyed the scenery. Nice to get some sunshine before it gets cold. Dave learned that one of my favorite books is Where the Red Fern Grows and I learned (again) that "adventure" is Dave's middle name.